McKAY, Patricia Anne “Patti”
November 13, 1952 – September 8, 2022 –
Patricia Anne McKay (nee Duffy) died in her home in Picton, Ontario on September 8th, 2022, surrounded by
her loved ones. Surprising no one, Patti wore pyjamas and organized the party herself. Her three
children, Luke (Lori), Kyla (Jeff), and Lauren (Stefan) and her husband, Michael, whom she cared for
the past 20 years, will never stop missing her. Her 5 grandchildren, Lucy, Charlie, Luca, Iris, and
Audrey carry on her spirit. She is survived by her three sisters, Barbie (Alex), Kathleen (Kevin), and
Karen (Jim) and Michael’s brothers, Terry (Helen) and Neil (Joan).
Patti was born in Owen Sound on November 13th, 1952 to Bill and Adele Duffy, the first of their five
children. The family soon moved to Port Colborne, where they developed a reputation for great
parties and terrible haircuts. As a teenager, Patti dreamed of one day carrying a wicker basket to buy
her groceries in Kensington Market. She made that dream come true when she enrolled at the
Toronto General School of Nursing, graduating with the last class in 1974. From TGH to Sick Kids to
Sunnybrook, Patti cared for her patients with skill and compassion.
Patti picked up her husband-to-be, renowned local gymnast Michael McKay, at a bar in Port Colborne
in 1977. Just four ‘short’ years later, she married him in a dress she sewed herself. In 1983 they had
their first child, and within 3 years there were 3. Nobody has seen her sit down since, but she
certainly never complained. Patti made everyone around her feel special, none more so than her
children, for whom her patience and affection never waned. Fifteen years ago, Patti bought a B&B in
Picton on a whim. A gifted cook and generous host, she thrived in her new role. Many of her guests
are now, simply, her friends.
We will miss her laugh, a cackle that could break glass, and the way she commanded her kitchen,
wine in hand, singing loudly, and dancing the pony (usually in pyjamas). To be with her was to be
joyful, to have been loved by her was to be loved wholly.
A Celebration of Life will be held in her honour at noon on September 17th at the St. Andrew’s
Church in Picton.
Donations to the ALS Society of Canada can be made in her memory.
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Our most sincere sympathies to the family and friends of Patti McKay Thursday September 8th 2022..
Death notice for the town of: Belleville, Province: Ontario
My sincere condolences to her family. We were TGH grads together and she was a gem. Will be missed by many.
My sincere condolences to her family. We were TGH grads and I remember her as her family described her. TGH drew young women from everywhere. She was friendly and fun to be with. May she rest after a life well lived and loved.
To Mike and family,
We were so very saddened to learn of Pattie’s passing! She certainly seemed to have enjoyed a wonderful life and had a great love for her family. Her spirit will live on in her children and grandchildren! May she Rest In Peace!
Nick and Debbie Markovich.
Sincere condolences to Michael and all of the family .Patti loved you all beyond measure.
I will miss our visits and long telephone chats ..rest in peace Patti.
I have to say, Luke,Lauren.and Kyla , that I will miss your mom,
She was such a devoted wife taking care of your dad and she was a loving mother to you always,
Remember her life sharing your times with her and l will not forget her, l too miss my best friend, lm so sorry that her life with you ended too soon, Love Lynn
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