Margaret Marilyn DeAdder
1942-2021
Margaret Marilyn DeAdder, professional clipper of coupons,
baker of cookies, terror behind the wheel, champion of the underdog,
ruthless card player, and self-described Queen , died on Tuesday,
January 19, 2021. Marilyn, the oldest of four siblings, was born
Marilyn Joyce in 1942, to parents Hannah and Edgar Joyce, in New
Glasgow, NS. She grew up in a modest home, which still stands on the
top of a hill where the Westville Rd. forks to the Town of Westville
in one direction and the old drive-in in the other. Growing up with
very little taught her how to turn a dime into a dollar, a skill at
which she’d excel her whole life.
Marilyn loved all children who weren’t her own and
loved her own children relative to how clean-shaven they were. She
excelled at giving the finger, taking no sh!t and laughing at jokes,
preferably in the shade of blue. She did not excel at suffering fools,
hiding her disdain, and putting her car in reverse. A voracious
reader, she loved true crime, romance novels and the odd political
book. Trained as a hairdresser before she was married, she was always
doing somebody’s hair in her kitchen, so much so her kitchen smelled
of baking and perm solution. Marilyn had a busy life, but no matter
what she was doing she always made time to run her kids’
lives as well. Her lifelong hobbies included painting, quilting,
baking, gardening, hiking and arson. Marilyn loved tea and toast. The
one thing she loved more than tea and toast was reheated tea and
toast. She reheated tea by simply turning on the burner often
forgetting about it. She burned many a teapot and caused smoke damage
countless times, leaving her kids with the impression that fanning the
smoke alarm was a step in brewing tea.
Marilyn liked to volunteer and give back to the community.
She was a lifelong volunteer at the Capital Theatre in downtown
Moncton, which her sons suspected was her way of seeing all the shows
for free. For all of Marilyn’s success in life, her crowning
achievement occurred in the mid-to-late eighties, when, left with
mounting debt, no job, no car, and no driver’s license, she
turned it all around to the point in the early nineties that she had
paid down her house, paid cash for all her cars, and got her three
boys through university.
Marilyn is survived by her three ungrateful sons Michael
(Gail), Paul and David (Trudy), whose names she never got completely
right, and whose jokes she didn’t completely understand. She
loved them very much, even though at least one of them would ruin
Christmas every year by coming home with facial hair, and never forgot
that one disastrous Christmas in which all three sons showed up with
beards. Everything she did, she did for her sons.
Marilyn is survived by her three granddaughters Meaghan (19),
Bridget (16) and Madelyn (5). While her sons committed
unspeakable crimes against humanity, her granddaughters could do no
wrong. While her sons grew up on root vegetables and powdered milk
(funneled directly into the bag to hide the fact that it was powdered,
fooling nobody), her granddaughters were fed mountains of sugary
snacks as far as the eye could see, including her world-famous cookies
and cinnamon rolls. Her love for them was unmatched.
Marilyn is survived by her sisters, Melda and Linda, and her
brother, Lloyd, who still owes her $600* (*inside family joke
– sorry, Lloyd). Marilyn is also survived by an
incredible number of close friends, who cannot be named for fear of
missing somebody.
Marilyn, ever the penny-pincher, decided to leave this world
on the day Moncton went into red-alert, her sons believe, to avoid
paying for a funeral. But, on the other hand, she always said that she
didn’t want a funeral, she wanted an Irish wake. She
didn’t want everybody moping around, she wanted a party.
Marilyn will get her celebration of life when COVID-19 is over. In
lieu of flowers, the family asks that you do something nice for
somebody else unexpectedly, and without explanation. We love you, mom,
a bushel and a peck. A bushel and a peck and a hug around the
neck.
Her arrangements have been entrusted to Cobb’s
Funeral Home and Cremation Center, 330 Whitepine Road, Riverview
(869-2007). Online condolences may be expressed at www.cobbsfuneralhome.ca
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Our most sincere sympathies to the family and friends of Margaret Marilyn DeAdder 19422021..
Death notice for the town of: Riverview, Province: Nouveau-Brunswick